Healthy Sex in Love and Marriage

Healthy sex is both therapeutic and preventive. Many authorities in this subject matter even claim that healthy sex promotes long life. But in many occasions, sexual issues have resulted to broken relationships.

What are some sexual issues that can affect love, marriage, and relationship? Harvard Medical News claims that tension and emotional distance can undermine a couple’s sex life. Harvard adds and justifies that: “Conflicts having nothing to do with sex, like finances and child-raising issues, can be at the root of a sexual problem.” A single sexual issue can strain a relationship. It often results to total breakdown in communication and separation.

Sex and its biologic explanation

The brain is the body’s most important sex organ. The brain appropriates hormone levels and sexual arousal. However, sexual arousal alone, does not guarantee good and healthy sex. A person has to get rid of tension and anxiety to involve his or her self not only to functional sex, but also to a healthy and meaningful sexual experience.

8 ways to promote healthy sex in love and marriage (from July 2015 issue of Prevention Magazine)

1. Feel good about your body. Engage in fitness plan even if it only takes 10 minutes of your time. Physical fitness positively affects lubrication and orgasm.

2. Don’t be afraid to ask about what you want. “Good sex is all about finding your perfect recipe,” according to, certified sex therapist, Aline Zoldbrod, PhD, of smartsex.com. Learn to respond to your partner’s sex needs.

3. Focus on quality and not on number. Don’t count the number of times you engage in sex with your partner in let us say a week’s time. Focus on how well you enjoyed each other, even though you only make love just once in a week.

4. Sex should be scheduled. Although there are times when sex becomes a spontaneous bout of lust, it is almost always not required in married couples. Get the perfect timing. Time for the two of you, maybe, is the time when the kids are in school or out of the house. Plan about the timing and about what you want to have for that special schedule. Watch and de-stress after sex, like watching together a funny movie or just a conversation. After sex, you can talk about what “magical thing” had just happened between the two of you.

5. Give it all the way because you like it. You have a healthy sex life if it answers these questions: Do you feel closer to your partner afterwards? Are you in a better mood? Are you happy together?

6. Don’t think of sex as a chore. If you feel obligated to submit the sexual whims and caprices of your partner, it is unhealthy.

7. Go out of the box. Forget about sexual routines. Do something new.

8. Talk dirty. Send flirty text messages. Sex therapist call this “simmering.” The little things you do will keep you physically and romantically bonded.